“And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” Deuteronomy 6:5-7. These verses are the premise of this book Raising a Daughter After God’s Own Heart and they beautifully sum up our roles as mothers and fathers in the home.
I absolutely loved this book! I enjoyed reading every single chapter, page, and every last word! So much so that I’ve read it more than once. And I know that as I continue my journey as a mother I will probably read it many times. Whether your children are young and little or fully grown, I strongly urge you to read this book! I also feel like this book isn’t just for mothers with daughters, but can also be applied to your sons as well!
In this book Elizabeth George begins by telling us we need to be “the bell sheep” for our daughters. I loved this metaphor she used for mothers. What is a bell sheep? Well, when a shepherd noticed a sheep that would stay close to him he would hang a bell on that sheep so that the rest of the sheep would follow the bell sheep, who was following the shepherd. I need to be the bell sheep for my daughter. God has called me to lead, train up, and guide my children in the ways of the Lord. If I won’t, who will?
In fact, Elizabeth George poses that question in chapter two “The Prayer Warrior” she asks “If you aren’t praying for your daughter each day, who is?” That question really stopped me in my tracks as I read it. And you can replace that word “prayer” with a lot of things! Ask yourself: If I’m not training my child in the ways of God, who is? If I’m not teaching her how to be kind, who is? If I’m not showing her how to love, who is? God has made you the mom. He’s entrusted your daughter to you. He’s assigned you to train her “in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” Ephesians 6:4. It is certainly not a task to be taken lightly or half-heartedly. That’s one of the reasons why I really loved this book. It really opened my mind and heart to my role as a mother. Being a mom is so much more than physically taking care of your children. There is so much time and effort that goes into raising and training your children to become women and men of God.
This book was an eye opener to me. It was motivating to read because it made me excited about my role as a mother. I take pride in the job God has blessed me with, the job of raising His children in His image. This book really goes into detail about the different areas of your daughter’s life and my role as a mom in each of those areas. Earlier I mentioned how if I wasn’t to do these things, who will? Sure, I could leave it to the pastor and elders, teachers at school or sunday school, and those people are great help meats and assistants to your job as a mom! But a comment she makes in this book is that, “Home is the natural 24/7, morning-to-evening place to impress truth upon your daughter. It’s where she gets to hear every day how important the Lord is to you.”
After reading Raising a Daughter After God’s Own Heart I felt inspired to put first things first. Nothing in this world is more important than the lives of my children. And nothing would mean more to me than seeing them grow in the ways of the Lord, to find their calling in Christ, and eventually raise their children to be children after God’s own heart. Another comment she makes in this book is, “Few things in life could ever be as grand as seeing your daughter love and follow the Lord.” And I couldn’t agree more!
I’ve gotten a lot of good suggestions from this book on actions I can take towards raising my daughter. And one of those things I would like to share with you is Elizabeth George suggested making a prayer journal for your child. She suggests to make headings for each area of your daughters life (spiritual, physical, financial, social, vocational, mental, family and church life) and to pray specific prayers for each one. Write the prayer down and then write the answer to that prayer you feel God has given you. I know when I’m older and my children are grown I’ll love to share those prayers with them so they can see how God moved in their life since they were young and how He helped me as a mother.
The book is just full of suggestions, advice, encouragement, and tools on how you can help raise and train your daughter. And like I said before they are not just for a daughter, but are great tools for a son also. I, myself, have a daughter but have also been blessed with a son and I know I’ll take many of the things I read and learned and apply it to my relationship with him.
Something else I really enjoyed was her great use of the scriptures. So, as you sit to read this book I strongly encourage you to have your Bible with you! Sometimes she just quotes the reference and not the scripture and I definitely wanted to read the scripture! My eyes were opened to so many great verses that I am now applying to my walk with God as a mother. You’ll definitely want your Bible with you and even a pen or some highlighters because there are so many good things to take from this book. And it just goes to show that God has already given us the tools we need to be useful and faithful stewards for Him. Whether thats our roles as a wife, mother, sister, friend, or just being a good child of God. It’s all in His Word. God is so good!
Put in the time! God’s given us the tools we need. I want to encourage you that we can raise godly children! It just requires getting into God’s Word, taking the time, doing the work. Something else I highlighted in the book is, “Not one truth is ever wasted, or powerless, or unimportant, or fruitless. God’s Word cannot return void, no matter when it’s sown. It always works on the heart of the hearer and accomplishes God’s will. Isaiah 55:10-11.”
I just want to leave you with these encouraging words from the book, “…my mission is clear. I cannot be bought, compromised, detoured, lured away, turned back, diluted, or delayed. I will not flinch in the face of sacrifice, hesitate in the presence of adversity…I won’t give up, shut up, let up, or slow up.” Make raising and mentoring your children a priority. Be a mom after God’s own heart and help raise daughters and sons after God’s own heart!
I encourage you to read this book! If your planning on becoming a mom, start planning now! If you have young children, start learning and applying now! If your children are older, its never too late to impart truth to them or your grandchildren! Thank you! I hope you enjoy this book as much as I did. God Bless!